DOCUMENT YOUR CONCERNS: Is your loved one being harmed? How has your loved one changed? In what ways?
PURCHASE WORKBOOK: Coping With Cult Involvement by Livia Barden to give yourself a format or structures to evaluate harm. Click Book Title to purchase from: www.icsahome.com/infoserv_respond/bookstore.asp
GET EDUCATED: about Cults-what they are and how they work.
READ: the essay, On Using the Term "Cult" by Herb Rosedale and Michael Langone of American Family Foundation (AFF) now ICSA.
STAY OPEN: Try not to jump to conclusions and stay open to the possibility that this group may not be a cult.
STAY IN CONTACT: with your loved one in the cult. Tips on Communicating With Your Loved One.
READ: Letting Go and Staying Connected: Coping with being out of contact with a cult-involved child by Dana Wehle, C.S.W.
This is no longer available at the cult clinic. But can be located at: www.cultnews101.com/2014/05/letting-go-and-staying-connected.html
RESEARCH: the group, organization or church. Research the leadership.
CULT LEADER: This document is in PDF format The Cult Leader and the likelihood of at least one personality disorder The Cult Leader as Sociopath.
GET SUPPORT: both Professional and Personal.
EXPLORE: the possibility of an Exit Counseling.
JOURNAL YOUR FEELINGS: especially the ones you can't share with your loved one in the cult.
PREPARE: for your loved one to leave the cult. Most cultists do eventually leave their group. Wait, it will feel like a vigil and you will experience unresolved grief.